Self Empowered Woman

Most people are a bit “shell shocked” and anxious after a divorce. Good judgement often is lacking during this time. Learn 5 simple principles to remember so that you can come out of your divorce as a happy, healthy person. Refer to these simple principles when you feel shaky about your future or are rushing headlong into bad decisions.

PRINCIPLE NUMBER ONE: YOU ARE ON AN EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER AND NOT TOTALLY RATIONAL

Even in the “best” divorce or when you are “glad” to be rid of one another you are unbalanced at this time. If possible, make as few important decisions at this time. Seek the wise counsel of friends who love you and are strong.

This is NOT the time to: move across the country; have unprotected sex with an attractive stranger; damage your ex’s property; change your kids school; go into great debt; or marry someone else.

PRINCIPLE NUMBER TWO: COMMIT TO GIVING YOUR CHILDREN & TEENS THE BEST OPPORTUNITIES

This means that you and your ex keep them out of the middle. Do NOT rage at or about your ex. Communicate your adult feelings to your friends, NOT your children. Do NOT change schools if possible. Put aside money for their college, if that was the plan when you had them. STAY in the same city, if possible. Long distance parenting is about as effective as long distance love. It works for a short time, but the relationship is stunted and is never “real” when there is great distance.

PRINCIPLE NUMBER THREE: TAKE THIS TIME TO GROW AND KNOW YOURSELF

Well meaning friends will often try to fix you up with someone. That’s fine if you want companionship and friendship. One of the best ways to use your time immediately post divorce is to get to know who you are when you’re NOT part of a couple.

What parts of yourself did you give up when you became a couple? Are there any new interests that you want to explore now that you are single? Use this time to discover & grow.

PRINCIPLE NUMBER FOUR: USE THIS TIME TO REBUILD FINANCIALLY

If you are the partner who earned a lot of money and you have children, provide adequate financial assistance so your children don’t suffer during their growing up years. This is NOT a matter of your ex “winning.” It’s ensuring a legacy of your children being the best they can be. You want your children to have the advantages they would have if you both stayed together.

If you are the one who has not earned as much, then get your act together. Do NOT jump into a relationship for financial reasons. Grow up, re-train, work, invest and get smart about money. You will feel more powerful and deserving when you can take care of yourself.

PRINCIPLE NUMBER FIVE: TAKE NEW RELATIONSHIPS SLOWLY!!!

When you date keep it light. Do NOT introduce your children and teens to all your boyfriends & girlfriends. When you feel more seriously toward someone, introduce them to your children/teens in small doses.

Don’t expect your children to love someone new, just because you do. All relationships take time. You are dead wrong to expect young people to like your new someone right away. Be certain you spend time with your children alone. Do NOT always include the new person.

What messages or values are you modeling in your dating behavior? If your kids witness a version of “Dad or Mom Gone Wild” or if you have a live in partner; what message/values are you giving your children? Children/teens listen and learn about relationships by YOUR example. If you value one thing, yet behave another way, your children will learn more by your example then your words.

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Is Your Relationship Over?    “Learn How To Get Over It…  And Get On With Your Life”
 

A dear friend of mine sent me this little story which
I find worthy to publish in this site, life is indeed
about sharing with and teaching one another….

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When things in your life seem almost too much to
handle, when 24 Hours in a day are not enough,
remember the mayonnaise jar . . . and the coffee.

A professor stood before his Philosophy class and had
some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very
large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill
it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and
poured them into the jar.

He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the
open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured
it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from
under the table and poured the entire contents into
the jar, effectively filling the empty space between
the sand.

The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
“I want you to recognize that this jar represents your
life.

“The golf balls are the important things - your God,
family, your children, your health, your friends, and
your favorite passions - things that if everything
else was lost and only they remained, your life would
still be full.

“The pebbles are the other things that matter like
your job, your house, and your car.

“The sand is everything else–the small stuff.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he
continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the
golf balls.

“The same goes for life.
“If you spend all your time and energy on the small
stuff, you will never have room for the things that
are important to you.

“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your
happiness.

Play with your children.

“Take time to get medical checkups.

“Take your partner out to dinner.

“Play another 18.

“There will always be time to clean the house and fix
the disposal.

“Take care of the golf balls first, the things that
really matter.

“Set your priorities.

“The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what
the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked.

“It just goes to show you that no matter how full your
life may seem,there’s always room for a cup of coffee
with a friend.”
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 what a great analogy.

nm

 

Attraction Accelerator - An Interview By Stephen Pierce With Bob Proctor On The Science of Getting Rich

http://www.theinfopublishers.com/getrich/getrich.pdf

Imagine if you can have anything that you want in your life…

* money, love, career, joy, peace, abundance.

What would you give to find out the secret?

There is no secret really, as popularized by the movie,The Secret. We know deep within us that everything that comes into your life is what you attract to it, what you think, it becomes.  Yet do we do it the way we are supposed to?

The challenge is to master this magical flow and it starts with your awareness and your mindset.  If you want more money but your thoughts focus on debts, you give energy to the wrong thought and you wonder why the money doesn’t come?  Believe that the law of attraction works, and it will work.

The Attraction Accelerator is a free special report put together by my mentor, Stephen Pierce who interviewed Bob Proctor, the ultimate Guru on Law of Attraction (he is the Teacher featured in the movie, The Secret) where he shares his 40-year study of the science of getting rich.  And I am honoured to be able to share this with you.

  That’s me and Stephen Pierce.

 Get the free awesome special report here, right click to save to your computer.

http://www.theinfopublishers.com/getrich/getrich.pdf

Bob made a profound statement:

There are people afraid, you know, If I quit my job,”I’ll lose my income”. Their income doesn’t come from their company. It comes through the company. The income comes according to their consciousness. And if it’s not coming from one source, it’ll come from another.

But If the Law of Attraction is as simple as that, why aren’t more people wealthy, even gratified about the state their lives are in?

The Answer is a Simple One.

There is an Exact Science to Applying the Law of Attraction to Build the Life You Seek. Can you imagine how many good intentions FAIL to manifest because of a lack of understanding of the Science of Getting Rich?

Does this sound like you?
 I’d like to be earning a far greater income.

 I want to provide more for my family.

 I sometimes worry about money.

 I work hard, but don’t see the income I desire.

 There are many things in life I want, but cannot afford.

 Without my current job, I have no other streams of income.

http://www.theinfopublishers.com/getrich/getrich.pdf

All my best wishes

Nora

P/S:  You may share this information with people who could use the knowledge and benefit from it.  Remember, by giving, we will receive.

 

One of the most powerful lessons in my life was the awareness that loving myself is very key to my happiness and emotional well-being. It is a fact that many people are not even aware pf and that loving ourselves is a powerful force in our lives and can be used to remedy many heartaches and pain. It gives us clarity of mind and motivation to be a better person and achieve greater things for ourselves, our mind, and our body.

Loving yourself is not to be confused with being self-centered or narcissistic which basically means being engrossed with oneself and one’s own affairs. It is not about being egoistical and conceited. There is a huge difference between these two.

You need to know that when you love yourself you will feel connected with the inner beautiful person that you are inside. We are all a being of light but that light will not be bright if you fail to spark it and give it life. To give it life is to give it love and when love flows within you, you will begin the process of loving yourself.

It is not easy to know when you do not love yourself. We all presume that we do, we think its a given. And yet, there are many people who allow themselves to lose their power and self-destruct themselves. Understand this, when you do not love yourself enough or love yourself first, you give permission for negative or unhappy things to happen to you.

Several symptoms to look out for when you need to love yourself more:

* When you s-t-a-y in an abusive relationship and continue to accept abuse and hostility. You mistake this to be heroic act to safeguard the family unit, when in reality you are just being insecured. Because you don’t love yourself enough you disallow yourself to see things for what they really are.

* When you solve your problems by taking drugs, or getting yourself drunk. When you do not love yourself enough, you allow for these self-abuses for they are nothing more than just that. Be aware that your lack of self-love leads you to self-destruction.

* When you think your life is meaningless or worthless, you think of ending your life. You lack the motivation to live because you forget to love yourself and the person that you are inside. It is not your business to take your life away.

* When you get to be fat and ugly and you don’t like how you feel about it. If you love yourself well enough, your appearance and health will be important to you. When you begin to love yourself you will begin to respect your body and your health.

Understand this, your soul is sacred, honour it. Once you know how to love yourself and love yourself first, you will be guided to make the right decisions, take responsibility for your life, achieve clarity of mind and peace of heart.

“You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere.” - Anonymous quote.

It has nothing to do with not loving other people or not taking responsibility or making sacrifices for others. Your responsibilities towards other do not change. What needs to change is your attitude and responsibily to yourself - if you love yourself only then you will truly learn how to love other people. what you truly breed, you will beget the benefits of that love.

If you have tried therapy and medication and are not satisfied with the results, or you want to try an alternative to therapy and meds…
“You Can Heal Your Depression Now!  No Expensive Therapy… No Dangerous Antidepressants…”