Self Empowered Woman

One of the most powerful lessons in my life was the awareness that loving myself is very key to my happiness and emotional well-being. It is a fact that many people are not even aware pf and that loving ourselves is a powerful force in our lives and can be used to remedy many heartaches and pain. It gives us clarity of mind and motivation to be a better person and achieve greater things for ourselves, our mind, and our body.

Loving yourself is not to be confused with being self-centered or narcissistic which basically means being engrossed with oneself and one’s own affairs. It is not about being egoistical and conceited. There is a huge difference between these two.

You need to know that when you love yourself you will feel connected with the inner beautiful person that you are inside. We are all a being of light but that light will not be bright if you fail to spark it and give it life. To give it life is to give it love and when love flows within you, you will begin the process of loving yourself.

It is not easy to know when you do not love yourself. We all presume that we do, we think its a given. And yet, there are many people who allow themselves to lose their power and self-destruct themselves. Understand this, when you do not love yourself enough or love yourself first, you give permission for negative or unhappy things to happen to you.

Several symptoms to look out for when you need to love yourself more:

* When you s-t-a-y in an abusive relationship and continue to accept abuse and hostility. You mistake this to be heroic act to safeguard the family unit, when in reality you are just being insecured. Because you don’t love yourself enough you disallow yourself to see things for what they really are.

* When you solve your problems by taking drugs, or getting yourself drunk. When you do not love yourself enough, you allow for these self-abuses for they are nothing more than just that. Be aware that your lack of self-love leads you to self-destruction.

* When you think your life is meaningless or worthless, you think of ending your life. You lack the motivation to live because you forget to love yourself and the person that you are inside. It is not your business to take your life away.

* When you get to be fat and ugly and you don’t like how you feel about it. If you love yourself well enough, your appearance and health will be important to you. When you begin to love yourself you will begin to respect your body and your health.

Understand this, your soul is sacred, honour it. Once you know how to love yourself and love yourself first, you will be guided to make the right decisions, take responsibility for your life, achieve clarity of mind and peace of heart.

“You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere.” - Anonymous quote.

It has nothing to do with not loving other people or not taking responsibility or making sacrifices for others. Your responsibilities towards other do not change. What needs to change is your attitude and responsibily to yourself - if you love yourself only then you will truly learn how to love other people. what you truly breed, you will beget the benefits of that love.

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I am shocked beyond words. I guess we are all shocked to our core. If the animals can understand it, they too will be shocked.

In a recent local news, we read about a man,no a beast, who has 10 wives and 64 children, who raped 5 of his daughters, with the help of their mothers. And this went on for about a year. It was discovered only after one of the girls told a teacher about it.

If you are reading this, I suggest you pause and send prayers to those children for the depth they are in. Who can they run and cry to , who can they trust after this? As a parent and a mother, I always tell my child that God has entrusted mothers to be guardian angels to their children. So much so that even animals , through natural instincts, love and protect their young. Just what do you call this? Two of the girls got pregnant and suffered abortion…

I am outraged…..

How could those women have allowed it? It is unnatural and totally dysfunctional. They are worst than animals for even a lioness will never sacrifice her cubs. It is beyond my comprehension and I thought I understood many things.

It does not seem enough that the father was sent to jail for 32 years and maximum caning of 24 times. It is not enough!

It is already incomprehensible to me those women agreed to live in a polygamy that is even beyond the rules of the Islamic religion. This is an extreme case of women losing their power over their own lives and giving up, what is God given, the natural protective instinct for their wards. Does it take a court to tell them what they did was wrong? Well in their defense they said they had to follow their husband’s instruction otherwise they would never see heaven.

I wish I could help these women who have lost their souls, in as far as I am concerned, thats what happened. It is them who need the most help. I know that most people, and women especially who would die for their children, me included. How could a group of women, coming from 10 different families, have been so misled. It could not be possible that they accepted it as normal unless they too suffered it. Which I doubt.

Let us pray for the family and the other children who stand witness to what their father has done. We pray they turn out to be socially healthy people and responsible for themselves. I would urge the authorities to remove the mothers as they are unfit to raise children.

Imagine the karma.

As I was doing my research as a online marketer, I am troubled to discover that there are people who use the internet to find out ways to kill themselves. I can only estimate from the keyword search, more than 16,000 people in an average month try to find information on committing suicide.

They also try to find ways how to die using sleeping pills, valium, carbon monoxide, plastic bag, or how to die painlessly. According to a report, women are 3 times more likely to have attempted suicide in their lifetime than men. However men are four times more likely to die from suicide than women. Suicide is the third leading cause of death amongst youth aged 15 to 24 years old. Suicide rates increase with age especially those above 65 years old.

Is that not just sad? I am always interested to know what people feel to reach that stage in their life? How can we help them?

I hope to give words of encouragement to people who are at the deep end of their emotions :

It is not your time. It is against the law of universe or natural laws, to take your own life. Your life is given to you on the premise that you honour it because you are not the body, you are not the mind. You are the soul. And your soul is sacred.

There cannot be a problem so big that you cannot solve it. Recognise the inner demon and empower yourself to combat your disillusionment with life itself. Give permission to yourself to see how great your life can be once you remove that negative self-talk.

I once received a strange hurried email from a girlfriend who said she was going away for a long long time, wanting to leave her doting husband and 2 beautiful girls. This was a person who suffered manic depression despite her blessings in life, despite her high degree of intelligence, beauty and spirituality. It sounded like a suicide note to me. But thanks to collective help and healing from friends, she was persuaded to s-t-a-y.

The point to that is, what could she have missed in her life? Perhaps she doesn’t love herself enough. Or she doesn’t know how to love herself first. Understand this, one of the most powerful lessons in life is to LOVE THYSELF. Once you are aware of this, you begin to do wonderful things for yourself, for your own happiness. Happiness and love begets more happiness and love. Positive energies progragate more positive energies.

Life’s circumstances will change once you decide you love yourself enough to want to make positive changes to your life. Don’t suffer other people’s problems and attach them to your life. It is not supposed to work that way. Love yourself first.

Have I walked the talk? Indeed I have.