Valentine’s Day Message: Celebrate Love!
I hesitated to write about this but I figured it is all part of my healing and hopefully yours too. It is the reason why I started this site. In sharing our pains, we become and feel just slightly better.
This time last year I was at a major crossroad of my life. My marriage stood on a flimsy line and I was “few inches away from asking a divorce” as I put it to my spouse. It was a long long drawn war on ego and eventual breakdown of communication. Nothing spectacular, these things happen everyday to millions of couple, all over the globe.
Valentine’ Day is typically a Western culture and because of that it is something that my society does not promote or celebrate. When we were still dating, Valentine’s Day was special to us, he would bring me flowers. He would bring me flowers on any occassion. Like most marriages, these things stop happening. After 12 years of marriage, communication was the hardest thing between us.
Last Valentine changed it for us. It came without any fanfare or expectations. We were on the brink of break-up. I was past being sad about the upcoming Valentine’s Day. I accepted and knew whatever happened in the future, it could only be better for me and my child. I accepted it and let go. My husband’s ego was immeasurably huge. If he did something that seemed to weaken his manliness, it would be a phenomenal act for him. I accepted it.
That night when I reached home late, the house was dark. My kid was not yet home from the babysitter’s. Then I saw a stalk of rose on the bed. Lying quietly as though pleading to be forgiven and loved. Quiet and dignified. I knew my child would not suffer a broken home after all. That small act of unspoken love moved mountains. I decided to look at this positively.
So celebrate your Valentine’s Day with greater meaning and purpose. Make an effort to ask for forgiveness and to forgive yourself.
It is not a day to glorify the Christian martyrs named Valentine.
It is to glorify our spirit and soul, from where love is seated and originated.
Here’s food for thought:
“Love is not blind - It sees more and not less,
but because it sees more it is willing to see less.”
- Will Moss -
Happy Valentine’s Day!
